Appreciation and Self-Comprehension.

It's that time again, another sentimental blog post is here; Appreciation and Self-Comprehension, what do I mean? Well appreciation in general, but more specifically of those around you and the situations available to you, and then Self-Comprehension; understanding ones own changes and positives, and in some ways their negatives in order to improve. I think it's probably best to start with this idea of a better comprehension of oneself, both are really equally connected anyway! So, as humans I think it's fair to say some of our most common traits are self consciousness and a natural sort of blindness to our own behaviour, good or bad. As natural as these traits are they can be rather destructive if they are continuous, if we allow ourselves to become over self-conscious and not realise the potential or positives within us then we not only manage to destroy ourselves in various different ways, but in turn we can often hurts those we care about because of varying reasons. Some of these reasons could be that we envy them for not being self-conscious (whether they are or not is irrelevant, because we can't see it, and in that state, blindness to oneself and others is way too common) We think that we do not deserve them and that we are insignificant in comparison or that they do not like us and are just hiding it (mainly paranoia, but paranoia is often caused by consciousness). For us to carry on life in a conducive and healthy manner we have to take control of these, we have to make sure we treat those we care about in the best way possible (it made be hard while having all these thoughts and ideas about what they might think of you but the truth is they are the main people that can help you out of it) and this is where self-comprehension comes in.
Once in a while, especially if you're feeling depressed or down in any sense of the word it is important to take a moment to comprehend who you are as a person; whether its negative or positive. I've said before in previous posts that realising the good in yourself; whether its big or small is essential to getting better, and it is but if you do not know how to get better and still are feeling negative about yourself, then you need to work out what it is you do not like, if there is quite a few things then narrow them down to 1 or 2 that you feel are actually a problem. Then it only remains to make sure that the problem is a literal problem that will get in the way of interacting with others or in the way of the rest of your life, then simply find a solution to it; it's not always easy but its necessary, whether it takes you a while or not, I can guarantee it is a fantastic feeling to finally fix it, improving these 'negatives' should be handled in a gradual manner as well, slowly find a way to become better, if you rush into changing yourself you could make yourself worse.
I am becoming aware of the length of this post so I'm going to move quickly onto appreciation, this isn't too long because in all honesty it's not particular hard to explain. Basically, when you're in a bad state such as you may be when self-conscious (it applies to most things but, this is one of the most common things) you can often forget about the help those around you actually give you. For example if someone is in a state whether it is volatile and dangerous or relatively passive and merely just a little sad, simply just having good friends who are there to listen or to just distract you without even knowing it (as is often the case) then it is utterly incredible to getting better. Recognise who is there for you, appreciate their existence, and do not lose them. At the same time do not lose yourself in the process of getting better, understand your qualities and probably one of the most important points, and the one I'm going to end on; Do not fear time, things vary, getting better can take years, and similarly it can take mere days.